Writing a Letter to Your Inner Child

by Watkins Publishing
Writing to your inner child

Acknowledging and interacting with your inner child is an extremely powerful way to connect with yourself.

What would you say if you could spend a moment with your 5 year old self? What about your 7,10, 15 year old self? We all have an inner little boy/girl and as life quickly happened, we built up hard outer skins to survive it. It’s important for us to take time out to address our younger selves and show them the love they needed to mature and develop.

The following technique was devised by author Blake D. Bauer for his book entitled You Were Not Born to Suffer. Blake D. Bauer is a contemporary spiritual teacher, counselor, and alternative medicine practitioner who speaks internationally. He is considered by many to be a modern meditation and qigong master.

Below you’ll find his simple step-by-step guide on how to write letters to and from your inner child.

How to Write a Letter to Your Inner Child 

Step 1

Please find a quiet place where you feel safe to be open and vulnerable.

Step 2

Please imagine yourself in the most beautiful place on earth. What is the most beautiful place to you? Where is it? What does it feel like to be there? Please visualize it, feel into it, and connect to this place.

Step 3

Please imagine yourself sitting somewhere in this beautiful place, and please imagine that your five-year-old self has now come to sit with you. Then, connecting to yourself at five years of age, please ask yourself as the adult what you would tell your younger self if given the chance. What did he or she need to know or hear at this age but was never told? If you could go back in time and encourage or affirm anything to your five-year-old self, what would you say?

Step 4

After taking some time to contemplate the questions above, please write a letter to your five-year-old self. Please begin with ‘Dear [your name]’, and please express everything that you would say to yourself as a five-year-old child if given the opportunity. Then, take a few slow, deep breaths and allow yourself fully to feel and experience whatever is true for you. Please notice any memories that arise from the past.

Step 5

Repeat steps three and four while connecting with your 10-year-old self, your 15-year-old self, and your 20-year-old self. Please feel free to do this with any additional age(s) if you feel inspired to do so.

Writing a Letter from Your Inner Child

Step 1

Please find a quiet place where you feel safe to be open and vulnerable.

Step 2

Please imagine yourself in the most beautiful place on earth. What is the most beautiful place to you? Where is it? What does it feel like to be there? Please visualize it, feel into it, and connect to this place.

Step 3

Please imagine yourself sitting somewhere in this beautiful place, and please imagine that your five-year-old self has now come to sit with you. Then, connecting to yourself at five years of age, please ask your five-year-old self what he or she wants to tell you as the adult. What does he or she want you to know or hear right now in your life? What wisdom and healing does your five-year-old self need to encourage in you as an adult right now?

Step 4

After taking some time to contemplate the questions above, please write a letter from your five-year-old self addressed to your adult self. Please begin with ‘Dear [your name]’, and express everything that your five-year-old self wants you, the adult, to know, hear and remember. Then, take a few slow, deep breaths and allow yourself fully to feel and experience whatever is true for you. Please notice any situations or relationships that you’re being guided to address in your life right now.

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You Were Not Born to Suffer by Blake D. Bauer © Blake D. Bauer 2017 published by Watkins Media Limited, London

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